20 Reason why I enjoy watching my wife with another man. (Blog #11)

• She is beautiful and I am proud of her and want others to see it

• I enjoy knowing that other men find my wife attractive

• She has interest in improving her body and appearance as she dresses for other men, feeling sexy and desired

• I love seeing the sexy and confident woman in hiding

• This is all about her pleasure

• I enjoy seeing her as the free independent spirit that she truly is

• I like not having to be in charge all the time, to give up control, to be in a sense dominated and still be loved and accepted by the one that we love the most. All without the guilt or judgment that would normally come with it.

• I was raised to respect my elders so I enjoy seeing my wife submit to an older man

• It brings out her slutty side

• I want her to experience as much variety and pleasure as possible 

• I want my wife to have a higher sex drive than I do that will fill her sexual needs

• I want my wife to have the most fun and the most powerful orgasms she can have

• I get off watching her flirt and kiss another man

• I get off on being jealous 

• I want to see a larger cock in her

• Watching the love of my life being passionately fucked by another man is the most beautiful and erotic thing I’ve ever seen in my life.

• The way her whole being responds to his touch and thrusts, the look of complete surrender in her eyes is the most gorgeous thing I have ever witnessed.

• She comes back a new woman; I must fuck her again to call her mine and reclaim her

• Because it makes the sex better between the two of us

• It's our own secret 

Interview with The Cuckold Consultant.com (Blog #8)

Here is an interview we did with the Cuckold Consultant. We get a lot of people asking us advice on how to get into the lifestyle and this is one of the best pages to go to and start to learn more about the lifestyle 

(Due to google rules I cannot provide you with the direct linkup his site  so please check out thecuckoldconsultant.com)

An Exclusive Interview – Meet Hotwife4oldermen 

The couple in this interview has been together for 25 years, and for 20 out of those 25 years they’re been in the hotwife lifestyle. What’s perhaps most interesting in my opinion is how a “soccer mom” with a full time job and family has been able to have this much continued success in the lifestyle.

This isn’t to say married mothers can’t have continued success but rather the challenges that many couples face are often reasons for their journeys to stop or die out. The wife is one-half the composite of the couple Hotwife4oldermen though has been with over 100 different men, and the husband has been documenting her journey.

I’m sure you’ll find reading their story interesting, so without further ado, enjoy!

Interview Questions 

 

• How did the two of you get into hotwifing/cuckolding lifestyle? Whose idea was it, what was the other’s reaction, and how did it all progress to what it’s become today?

A: Before we were married she told em she wanted to try a 3 way FMF and this was the late 90’s so it was impossible to find someone. So Like everyone else we started out swinging. She quickly learned she wasn’t into other women. She then said she wanted to try a MFM 3 way with me. And we did it a few times and I remember sitting back not joining in and loving it. Then I found a website Hotwife Jackie and that changed everything. It was hard for her to understand at first but she embraced it quickly. 

 

 

• Most guys have a hard time getting their wives to embrace their submissive side in their own bedroom when it’s just the two of them. How have you managed to get your wife to embrace it with others?

A: I take pictures and video 80% of her dates and it’s like watching a game film. I notice she had submissive tendencies.  and when she is caught up in the morning she seems to embrace it more. However when she is with me in our bedroom she’s not as submissive. It was it until past 10 years she really embraced it. 

 

 

• Most women say they want/need some kind of emotional connection with a man before she sleeps with him. Is this true for your wife, or does she prefer it to be more of a “stranger” fucking her kind of encounter?

A: it really depends on her mood and where we are at.  She loves both. If we know we want to meet someone for a possible long-term relationship then there definitely have to be a connection. If we are out in another town like Vegas and go to a club then we are fine with a one night stand. 

 

 

• It seems the two of you have had a lot of hotwife experiences. How many would you say you’ve had up until this point (not number of guys, but rather experiences overall)? Can you give us details on one or two of the most memorable ones?

A: It’s easily over 100.  We usually like to go out once a month and try to meet up with 2 bulls in one night. 

Most memorable had to be this past December in Vegas. We met up with a local guy that we have played with on 4 other occasions and for some reason something came over her and she let him fuck her bareback. 

The second was end of February this year we just set up a quick meeting with a new person and she ended up in the backseat letting him finger her and then she sucked his cock. 

 

 

• What are 2-3 of the most “extreme” submissive things your wife has done, and what were those experiences like?

1. Doctor office exam in a real Doctors office
2. Show up to a doms house and let him flog her and use a dildo attached to a saw
3. Getting collared, leashed and then fucked bareback 

 

Dr. Office Exam with real Doctor

 

• Many couples don’t know where to start when it comes to finding a bull. Is there any kind of streamlined process you follow now to increase the odds of 1) finding someone real, and 2) finding someone suitable?

A:That is why I handle all the initial contact we use swinging sites and craigslist was great before they shut it down. What I do is give them the basic information about us let them know it’s me the husband. Once I get a feeling they are real then I show my wife who I’m talking to show her the pictures and emails and if she likes what she sees then we go forward with setting a date. 

 

 

• Are you always there when your wife plays with other men? If so, do you have to reject a lot of men who aren’t open to this (would you say most are open to you being there, or not open to you being there)? If not, what’s it like knowing she’s out on her own with another man getting fucked by him?

A: yes I’m always there and one of our things are if you want to play with my wife you have to let me take pictures and videos. However after we have met somebody and been with them a few times and there’s a really good connection I do let my wife play alone. Just as long as she has a camera set up. 

 

 

• Why is she known as hotwife 4 “older” men? Does she ever play with younger men? Does she prefer older men, and if so, why?

 

 A: there’s something about older men that she likes we have tried playing with younger guys and there have been a few but most of them flake out or can’t rise to the occasion.  she likes how they are mature and they’ve already been around the block know what they want and have a dominating side to them.  also so much of this is centered around BBC we decided to share our experiences bring something different to the lifestyle. 

 

• Can you describe what 2-3 of the biggest emotional turns on are for you in exploring this lifestyle with your wife? (I.e. angst, control, lack of control, jealousy, etc.)

 

A: when we first started we had a rule that there’s no kissing on the mouth and after one experience we both quickly realized how boring that was. I learned that my turn on is being jealous and I tell her and her bull that their goal is to make me jealous. And watching her submit to another man and do something she normally won’t deal with me is it an adrenaline rush I can’t explain. 

 

• I noticed you said you almost always play safe but you said one of these days she’ll let a bull ride her bareback. Do either of you have a pregnancy fetish of sorts or get aroused by another man cumming inside her?

 

A: she has her tubes tied and every since she did that I noticed she has had a pregnancy fetish and there are a few bulls we trust that she loves going bareback with. 

 

• Can the Mrs. take a SFW picture (or NSFW, whichever you’d prefer) holding up a sign that says “TheCuckoldConsultant.com”?

 

I want to thank Hotwife4oldermen for taking the time to do this interview with us. If you're interested in learning more about them, I highly suggest you check out all their sites which can be found here: https://linktr.ee/hotwife4oldermen 

 

How we got started in the Hotwife/Cuckold lifestyle - Part: 3 (Blog #7)

Journey into the Cuckold lifestyle - Part 3 (Blog #7)
By. Husband

If you are familiar with this lifestyle you've heard the many different terms. Hotwife, Stag/Vixen, and Cuckold. 

With a quick search, you'll get a different definition for each one of these terms but for my wife and me here is how we view the lifestyle. 

Hotwife, Stag/Vixen: This is where we started out and whenever we would meet and play with someone, I was always there but I was never acknowledged. I was a fly on the wall and the two of them never paid attention to me. There was no teasing or humiliation and it was just pure sex nothing more.  And depending on the bull we still continue to play this way.

The deeper we got into this lifestyle I learned about the term Cuckold. And at the time it was still due to a lot of people.  If you Google the term you will get 100 different definitions from people. And of course I researched every one of them and after being in this lifestyle for over 10 years I became more curious and watch videos, read different articles

As I learn more about this side of the lifestyle I found this great article from this website CuckyBoy.Com (Due to bloggers policies I cannot provide you a direct link sorry)

In general, there tend to be 3 types of cuckolds in my humble opinion:

Cuckold Type 1 - The traditional cuckold

• The cuckold may have come to the lifestyle by finding out his wife is cheating
• There is a certain aspect of deviance by the cheating wife
• The cuckold can seem almost tortured by the cheating wife's behavior
• The cuckolds say they enjoy it but if you really read what they're saying in their posts or comments it's almost as though they do not have choice and they lack of choice excites them
• At some level the cuckold does enjoy the emotional torture, much like a masochist
• They enjoy the humiliation aspects of cuckolding (wimp factor, knows his place, small penis)
• The slut wife sometimes includes him and sometimes she ignores him
• The cuckolds tend to be more submissive in all aspects of the relationship and the hotwives tend to be more dominant in all aspects
• The cheating wife may practice sexual denial with the cuckold

Cuckold Type 2 - The non-traditional cuckold  

• Came to the lifestyle after learning about hotwife
• They love their hotwives having sex with other men
• Their hot wives enjoy teasing the cuckold and letting him be a part of it somehow (the cuckold is not necessarily always physically present with her and her lover, but she makes sure that he is a part of it by calling or telling him all the details when she arrives home)
• The cuckold and the slut wife are open about all aspects of the wives sexual activity, no deviance
• The cuckold enjoys the hotwife's sluttieness and her sexual power over him
• The cuckold tends to have more desire and passion for his wife after she has been with another man
• These cuckolds tend to be only sexually submissive
• In all other aspects of the relationship the cuckold and wife are equal partners

  
  Cuckold Type 3 - The Fem or Wimp Cuckold

• The cuckold enjoys feminization brought on by the hotwife
• The cuckold enjoys the forced femization by the hot wife, made to wear panties, make up, bras, etc.
• The cuckold enjoys the humiliation of not being man enough to handle his wife
• The slut wife tends to be dominate in all aspects of the relationship
• The hot wife may or may not include the cuckold in her sexual activities
• The cuckold has definite bi-sexual tendencies
• The hot wife may use a strap on dildo on her fem cuck
• The hot wife may include the lover in using the cuck for her pleasure (oral and anal)

After we read this we realized we fell into the category "Cuckold Type 2".  Everything you read about type 2 fits us perfectly. She will tease me and not let me have sex with her or even touch her sexually weeks prior to meeting one of her bulls. And when she is with her bull she will be more submissive with him and tell me how much better and bigger he is than me. 

Her main goal is to make me jealous and I want to prove myself to her when it's my turn. Because in my normal life I'm a highly competitive person and always in control so when she does this it really makes me want to up my game when I am with her. 

For the record I am not bi nor do I clean up, fluff, or suck her bulls cock. We are not into pegging or ball torture.  This is more verbal role-play and during the regular workweek sometimes we don't even talk about it and just go on as a normal sexless couple that is busy. 

One rule she has for me is that I am not allowed to masturbate. So you can imagine knowing that your wife is going to be fucking another man in the next few weeks and there is nothing you can do in the meantime to release that sexual tension.  

To sum it all up this is how we view the our Cuckold Lifestyle: 

Pro Cuckold Stuff I like:

I love to see her/help her getting ready for a date and it's not with me!

I love to see her give in to a lover's advances even in public like at a restaurant or in the hotel lobby

I love it when she tells me that her lover will be fucking her first and I'll have to wait my turn.

I love it when she wont let me touch her or even myself 1-2 weeks prior to meeting her bull

I love to hear her moans and screams and know that some other man is in control of her.

I love it when she begs a lover to fill her up with or without a condom

I enjoy taking pictures/videotaping when she is being fucked

I love it when she teases me about her boyfriends and tells me how good they are and how bad she wants them

I love it when she is really into them and does not hold back when she is with them.

I love it when she looks at me while she is getting fucked and tells me how much better/bigger her lover is

I don't like the guy talking directly to me. I like it when it tells my wife to look at me and tell me if she's enjoying it.

Stuff that might not make me a Cuckold:

My cock not like the 3" cocks I've read about and

I don't wear women's panties or anything like that

I don't like name calling (fag, wimp, sissy & bitch)

I wouldn't suck a guys cock even if she begged me to

I won't eat her creampie in front of her lover

So I would say I am a 50/50 cuckold

How we got started in the Hotwife/Cuckold lifestyle - Part: 2 (Blog #6)

The Hotwife Lifstyle

by: Wife 

2004

How it all began...After having a few couples only experiences, and me not finding them as exciting as I had hoped, realizing I'm not really into women like I thought I would be. I decided to call my husband up at work on a Saturday afternoon and told him I wanted to try a single guy. I was frustrated with getting 4 people all on the same page and that I wanted the attention. After a night with his friend and being the main focus, I was ready for more. 

Back then there wasn't much information on being a "Hotwife", hell, there wasn't really a mainstream term. But once he did some researching, he found the a hotwife site and dove head first. I let him learn it all and tell me about it. I'll be totally honest.....the more he told me about it, I was a little hesitant and unsure why he liked it so much. I mean, he was REALLY into watching me with other men. Any woman would initially question why their husband wants & encourages his wife to have sex with another man...."if he's "letting" me do this, then what's he doing".

2005

Those stupid insecure thoughts went away with each meeting & hook-up. The more we did it, I learned more about myself sexually and it became such a huge part of our sexual foreplay. Which we all know begins to lack the longer you've been married. 

I have found myself enjoying the getting ready process. I love to dress up in a sexy LBD and high heels. I love to have him shave & prep me for my date. Making sure every part of me is absolute perfection. 

It excites me to such a level, knowing that I am his personal porn star. He videos my trysts with my bulls, boyfriends, doms....all for his personal enjoyment and a small handful of the lucky ones. 

The best part of him taking pics & video, he has pointed out some things in me that I didn't know existed. Over the years, I've accepted the fact that I have a submissive side and I love to push my limits. I have gone bareback with only a select few men, I've started playing alone and eventually began traveling to see a boyfriend in another state.

You give me some good conversation, not all sexual, show some class & intelligence and make me feel that you're a genuine, sincere person......you'll have my wet panties in your hand. 

To be continued............ CUCKOLDING

MFM 2005

How we got started in the Hotwife/Cuckold lifestyle - Part 1 (Blog #5)

Swinging 

Written by - Husband

We pretty much got into the lifestyle the same way everyone else has. We started out swinging which led to us discovering the hot wife, cuckold lifestyle.

1997 - The actual photo for our ad

I met my wife when we were both 17 and we started dating when we were18. We've had a great relationship from the start. Both of us were faithful and honest and enjoy exploring new things. We were dating for two years and we planned on getting married we both turn 21. It was during this time when we were in bed she told me she wanted to try a three-way with another woman. So like a good boyfriend I told her I would try to make that happen. This was in the late 90's and the Internet was still new to us. The only way we knew how to meet anybody was a local magazine at the adult bookstores. It had Classified ads for everything MM, FF, MFMF, MFM and FMF.

So I took a Polaroid picture wrote up an ad and got a PO Box and sent it in. For the next year, nothing happened. But we did notice a lot of ads for couples that were into swinging and the female was bi. Then I remember seeing a documentary about it on HBO's series "Real SEX". So we found an and responded to it. To our surprise, they were a great couple. We ended up meeting and playing with them. We weren't considered your hard-core swingers at the time. We would attend a few parties and meet with them once, maybe twice, a year and to this day we are still friends with them.

1997 - Swinger party 

It was during this time my wife realized she didn't care for playing with other females. One day while I was at work, she called me and said she wanted to try a three-way with me and another guy. The adrenaline rush I got from that phone call was something I'll never forget. A few months later a close friend of our is came into town. Since he was the only one who knew about our swinger lifestyle, my wife thought he would be a good candidate to test out. So I asked him if that a problem with him, he didn't hesitate and said yes. One night we decided to have some drinks at the house, started to kiss her, then I joined in. When it was all over she told me that was something she definitely something she wants to do again.

1998 - Picture for MFM ad

This was back in 1998, so I ran a dating ad on Yahoo classifieds and we met up with a gentleman that had experience with couples. We met for drinks and he suggested we go back to his house. While we were at his house we all got to the hot tub and I was watching my wife make out with him. I found myself enjoying it more and more. Then a few weeks later we met with him again, as he started kissing her, I stepped back and watched. She called me over to join, but I just found myself watching the two of them. I was really enjoy what was happening right in front of me.

So as I did my research on the Internet about MFM 3 ways I came across a webpage of a hotwife named Jackie. That was the first time I heard the term"Hotwife". I actually paid for a membership to her page and that's when I knew this is what I wanted to do.

To be continued.......

Welcome to our Hotwife/Cuckold (Blog #1)

1st picture with older man

Welcome to our hotwife/cuckold blog where my husband and I would like to share our 20-year journey of this lifestyle with you. We are your everyday couple part of the PTA and school functions and activities. None of our friends or family know about this lifestyle that we have been in for so long.

If you are not familiar with the hotwife, cuckold, shared wife and slut wife lifestyle we would suggest you google the term. 

We want this blog to be 100% real and honest And entertain people and hopefully inspire them if they are curious about the lifestyle. We truly believe his lifestyle has helped our marriage. 

As we mentioned in our bio we've been together for 25 years and I've been in this lifestyle for over 20.  My husband has been documenting a majority of my dates and Everything we share with you will be 100% real amateur and poorly edited by my loving husband. My preference for a Bull, lover, boyfriend or Dominant is an older gentleman that is in the age range of 50 - 70 old. And I will explain why in another post.

      2005                               2010                           2015

And I promise you the pictures and video quality gets better through out the years because of technology and we were finally able to afford better cameras.

You will see our journey from how we started from me wanting to try an FMF 3way to swinging with other couples to wanting to try MFM 3way with my husband. Then to him discovering the hotwife lifestyle and then going from stag/vixen to bull/cuckold to dom/sub. I will dive deeper into each category later on.

Thank you for visiting and stay tuned for a wild ride.

2020